Good Boundaries and Goodbyes

Lysa Terkeurst

Good Boundries and Goodbyes

She comes first

Relationships are wonderful . . . until they’re not.

Stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships and learn biblical ways to set boundaries–and, when necessary, say goodbye.

Is it unloving or selfish to set a boundary with family members or friends? Are Christians ever called to walk away from a relationship that’s no longer safe or sustainable? #1 New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst deeply understands these hard questions in the midst of relational struggles.

After thousands of hours of counseling intensives and extensive theological research that transformed the way she defined healthy relationships, Lysa is now more committed than ever to loving people well without losing the best of who she is.

In these pages, Lysa will help you:

Understand the five factors to remember when implementing healthy boundaries.
Determine the appropriate amount of personal and emotional access someone has to you.
Stop being misled and emotionally paralyzed by wrongly interpreted or weaponized Bible verses that perpetuate unhealthy relationships.
Be equipped with effective boundary-setting tools, such as realistic scripts and practical strategies for healthier communication.
Be empowered to say goodbye without guilt when a relationship has shifted from difficult to destructive.
Receive therapeutic wisdom you can trust directly from Lysa’s Christian counselor Jim Cress, who weighs in throughout the book.
You’ll be relieved to learn that boundaries aren’t just a good idea, they’re a God idea.

Look for additional biblically based resources and devotionals from Lysa:

Forgiving What You Can’t Forget
It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way
Uninvited
You’re Going to Make It
Embraced
Seeing Beautiful Again

This is a good book but not sure I agree with everything Lysa says.  I believe marriage should be naked and without boundaries, and despite the scripture Lysa quoted, I believe God wants that for us.

How can you have boundaries if you are one flesh?  Does that not contradict what God commands us to do?

That said, marriage issues are caused by the human sin in all of us, and I can see where there comes a time for the good of your marriage to set boundries. You may need to set boundaries and work through the issues or destroy yourself (the you that God created).  I just don’t think it should be your first priority.